Don’t Just Say No

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We are a sinful people. Even when we receive salvation, and the Holy Spirit comes to dwell in us- we daily fight the battle with sin.

The flesh(sin) is hostile toward God.  It seeks our destruction and will do everything it can to hinder, disrupt, and undermine the work of God in us and through us.

So how do we fight back?  How do we address the sin in our life?  Do we just say no every time we are tempted?

I know from experience, saying no is not enough.

Have you ever had a day when one particular temptation has been nagging at your mind- over and over again- maybe it is the temptation to eat.  You are trying so hard to lose weight- to eat a healthy diet- but you can’t stop thinking about ______ food (fill in the blank).  There is this really good buffet/restaurant close to your house.

You keep saying no, but the temptation is still there- wearing you down- trying to convince you- you deserve it- you could just get a small plate (even though you know once you get there you will probably have more), and soon you find yourself scheming perhaps to find a way to convince your husband (who is supposed to be encouraging you to eat healthy) to let you go get ______ food.

This has been me!  I can remember days like this.  Saying no did not adequately deal with my problem.

So what do we do?  How do we fight back?

Colossians 3:2- Set your mind on things above, not on earthly things. 

Ok, but what exactly?  When we are doing battle with sin, we can’t just pick the fruit (evidence) of that sin from our life to eliminate it- we have to pull it out at the root.  How do we find the root?  What need or desire is at the heart of our sin?

We fight sin just as Jesus did, in Matthew 4 when He was tested in the wilderness- “It is written.”

The Bible, God’s Word is our weapon- the sword of the Spirit (Eph. 6) given to us to vanquish sin.  To kill it.  We are in a battle with our flesh- it seeks to destroy us- to keep us from enjoying all the riches in Christ Jesus.

Fight back with the truth of God- and say to your sin- “It is written.”

This requires effort on our part, we have to bring our sin before God- ask for His help in defeating it.  We need Him to show us what is at the root of our sin- and give us Scripture from His Word to fight against it.

Enlist help from a friend if you feel led to- look for a Scripture together- pray together about the sin you are struggling with.

Here is a prayer from David to help us search ourselves for those strongholds of sin that need to be surrendered to Christ:

Psalm 139:23-24

23 Search me, God, and know my heart;
    test me and know my anxious thoughts.
24 See if there is any offensive way in me,
    and lead me in the way everlasting.

I have prayed this prayer after discovering an area of sin my life- seeking repentance and for God to renew a right spirit within me.

Psalm 51:1-12,17

Have mercy on me, O God,
    according to your unfailing love;
according to your great compassion
    blot out my transgressions.
Wash away all my iniquity
    and cleanse me from my sin.

For I know my transgressions,
    and my sin is always before me.
Against you, you only, have I sinned
    and done what is evil in your sight;
so you are right in your verdict
    and justified when you judge.
Surely I was sinful at birth,
    sinful from the time my mother conceived me.
Yet you desired faithfulness even in the womb;
    you taught me wisdom in that secret place.

Cleanse me with hyssop, and I will be clean;
    wash me, and I will be whiter than snow.
Let me hear joy and gladness;
    let the bones you have crushed rejoice.
Hide your face from my sins
    and blot out all my iniquity.

10 Create in me a pure heart, O God,
    and renew a steadfast spirit within me.
11 Do not cast me from your presence
    or take your Holy Spirit from me.
12 Restore to me the joy of your salvation
    and grant me a willing spirit, to sustain me.

17 My sacrifice, O God, is a broken spirit;
    a broken and contrite heart
    you, God, will not despise.

Does all this talk of battle, and the sin in our lives- make you feel grave and a little depressed?

It does that to me sometimes.  I feel dirty and disgusted at this nature in me that continues to go after things that I know won’t satisfy instead of turning to God.

So dear friends, please don’t miss this- don’t forget who we are in Christ.

Paul cries out in Romans 7:24-25: “Wretched man that I am! Who will rescue me from this body of death? Thanks be to God through Jesus Christ our Lord!”

Romans 8:1-2: There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. For the law of the Spirit of life in Christ Jesus has set you free from the law of sin and of death.

Romans 8:15-17: For you did not receive a spirit of slavery to fall back into fear, but you have received a spirit of adoption. When we cry, “Abba! Father!” it is that very Spirit bearing witness with our spirit that we are children of God, and if children, then heirs, heirs of God and joint heirs with Christ–if, in fact, we suffer with him so that we may also be glorified with him.

Dear friends- my brothers and sisters- hear the truth of what God has done. 

You are forgiven, you are free from the bonds of sin and death.  Christ has done this!  We are reconciled to God- today, right now- through the blood of Jesus Christ.

We fight sin today- we seek God today- in response to the glorious gift that we have already received!  We do it not to “please” or to “earn” but because we have tasted and know that God is good.

Hear one more verse as I close- Romans 5:5: “and hope (in God) does not disappoint us, because God’s love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit that has been given to us.”

When I read this verses- I can feel my heart filling up- with joy, thankfulness, a sense of awe for what God has done.  This spurs our response- to live each day glorifying God and praising His Name.

Take courage my dear friends- the battle is won!  We are victorious through Jesus Christ our Lord (1 Cor. 15:56-58).  So let us fight the good fight today (1 Tim. 6:12).

Ask.Seek.Knock.

Starting Over…Again

Steve Prefontaine, Start of Mile Race, the 11th annual San Francisco Examiner Track and Field Indoor Games, the Cow Palace,  Feb 1, 1974
Do you ever feel like you just get tripped up by the same sins over and over?  You resolve to change, to create better habits, to use your time more wisely…and then days go by and you just can’t seem to get motivation to do it?

Maybe you have a week or two where you are able to begin a new habit- and you are feeling good- maybe you even keep it up for a few years- and then life happens- something forces its way in and then the habit is gone- and you haven’t been able to get back to it?

I feel this way about some areas of my life-my hubby and I were talking about the power of habits- and how easy it is to let life crowd in and take over- and end up never taking time for the things that you really know you should make time for.

But the problem is- so many of those important things- those things we will regret not doing- they require effort- discipline- our will being engaged.

For my hubby and I- a great motivator during this season of our life is our children.  We want to be an example to them of lives surrendered to Jesus Christ- putting Him first every day.

On our date night last week, we were walking and talking about some areas that we don’t feel like we are putting Him first- and how we can help each other make changes- and pray that God will help us be faithful to our commitment to change.

Habits are powerful- and we spend so much of our lives falling back on those things that we have always done- for better or for worse.

Our culture entices us with instant gratification- the ability to enjoy things now rather than having to wait to see the benefits/results of our work.  From fast food to credit cards to how we spend our time.

Don’t think about the consequences- just make self happy in the moment.

Turning on the TV or opening your Bible, exercising or grabbing that bag of chips or dessert- I am speaking from my own experience-sometimes it is hard.

Do you have any habits that you want to kick out of your life?

Are there new habits that you are trying to establish but find yourself struggling- unable to consistently keep going?

I pray that today you may be inspired to start anew or begin again- and do that thing or things that you know- despite the work and commitment- will bless you and others in the long run.

stay strong

We all start small, at the beginning- and that’s when habits are hardest.  Keep your eyes on the long term- what we are striving for- the day to day progress may not seem significant- but keep on looking forward, anticipating what a small investment of effort today can do.

The Need for Self-Discipline 1 Corinthians 9:24-27

24 Do you not know that in a race all the runners run, but only one gets the prize? Run in such a way as to get the prize. 25 Everyone who competes in the games goes into strict training. They do it to get a crown that will not last, but we do it to get a crown that will last forever. 26 Therefore I do not run like someone running aimlessly; I do not fight like a boxer beating the air. 27 No, I strike a blow to my body and make it my slave so that after I have preached to others, I myself will not be disqualified for the prize.

 

Delight in Dawdling

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My daughter is a dawdler.  She especially seems to love dawdling when we are getting dressed in the morning, eating meals, and getting ready for bed at night.

She will ask questions (why?), move at a snails pace, anything to prevent the quick movement from point A to point B or through whatever task or meal we may be sitting down to complete.

I find myself getting very frustrated sometimes.  Why?  That’s what I have been thinking about- and truthfully- all the reasons that I come up with mostly boil down to my own selfishness.  I want her to move faster so that I can move on to the next thing or focus on the next thing.

When I have a list in my head of things to do, I like to move through those things and get them accomplished.

Sometimes my son is crying and she is dawdling and I just want her to hurry so I can get back to him.

Maybe you are trying to take just a few moments to sit down and read for a few minutes, or eat something, or do a few exercises…go to the bathroom…

In the heat of the moment, how do you respond?  I believe those moments are glimpses of our true character- our discipline and self-surrender to Christ.  That’s why I posit it is my own selfishness that fuels so many of my reactions- those parts of myself that remain not given up or delivered in Christ.

Whatever the reason- these are times when I feel my character is being tested.  How will I choose to respond?  Will I yell and get impatient?  Will I calmly ask her to move a little faster and explain to her the reason for hurrying?  Will I let her dawdle- and dawdle with her?

Life is full of so many small- seemingly insignificant moments- but out of those things if we are watching- we can see patterns emerge.  Ways that we choose to deal with situations that frustrated us or raise our stress level.

God has been challenging me with the realization that everything I do- even these seemingly insignificant things- are teaching my children about my character- and their mother responding with the love of Christ- and in a way that teaches them about who God is and who He calls us to be as Christians.

Rather than letting these moments slip by unchecked- I have been praying that God will change my heart and continue to chip away at the selfish parts of me- bringing me more fully in surrender to Him.

Romans 12:1-2

1 Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God—this is your true and proper worship. 2 Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.

Philippians 4:4-9

4 Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice! 5 Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near. 6 Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. 7And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

 8 Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. 9 Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me—put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you.

Colossians 3:20-21 (Great passage on a Christian household)

20Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord.

 21 Fathers, do not embitter your children, or they will become discouraged.

Embitter: Cause (someone) to feel bitter or resentful.

Bitter: characterized by intense antagonism or hostility, hard to bear, grievous, distressful

Synonyms for Bitter: heartbreaking, disagreeable, antagonistic, distasteful, acrimonious, disturbing, unpleasant

***I think that though this passage says Fathers- that Mothers can endeavor to also avoid things that would embitter our children.

Contemplating the view, Willis Tower
So I pray that today, we would take time to consider our interactions with our children, and if you have no children presently- how you interact with your spouse or co-workers, friends, family…

Are there any situations that continually frustrate you or leave you feeling unsatisfied- wishing for a different outcome?  Are you hungry to live a more faithful example of Christ’s sacrificial love and patience?

I encourage you to pray- and seek accountability- to find Scriptures that can encourage you and memorize them- write them on your mirror- start today.

Don’t let another day go by- for we all know- time slips away quickly and before we know it- the time to change is lost- our children are grown- relationships are damaged or destroyed- because we failed to see the importance of those seemingly little things.

Romans 7:21-25

21 So I find this law at work: Although I want to do good, evil is right there with me. 22 For in my inner being I delight in God’s law; 23 but I see another law at work in me, waging war against the law of my mind and making me a prisoner of the law of sin at work within me. 24 What a wretched man I am! Who will rescue me from this body that is subject to death? 25 Thanks be to God, who delivers me through Jesus Christ our Lord!