Life. Where it all begins for each of us. Who gives life- who has the right to say who lives or dies? In the present age, these questions have seemed to get more complicated.
Let’s answer the first question. Who gives life? God- He is the Creator of all life. Two people may have come together to contribute the sperm and egg- and yes, I believe that gives us some responsibility for the outcome of that joining- but God ultimately creates life- and knows us all even before we were first conceived. He knows us and loves us when we are only a future possibility- a twinkle- a whispered promise.
My heart ache- the possibility and hope of life has been drowned out by all the fears. Not all pregnancies are planned- but that doesn’t mean that the baby conceived is a mistake that must be taken care of. There are so many women overwhelmed with the stress of an unplanned pregnancy- and they are pressured, convinced, and sometimes coerced into thinking that ending the pregnancy through abortion is the best solution for them.
They feel pressured by their job, by family, by a boyfriend or husband, or maybe just fear of the unknown- the responsibility. That makes sense. A new baby is a huge responsibility- as any parent can tell you. And many times even if the news of a pregnancy is received with joy- it takes a while to become accustomed to the shift in your reality.
Imagine not being prepared, or expecting it. Maybe that’s what happened to you. A pregnancy that wasn’t planned for and the news was not received with excitement- maybe they were angry, and gave you an ultimatum. Maybe you were up for a promotion at your job and a baby would change your plans.
We make choices. My heart ache- we make this choice too lightly. We have adopted lies about life- about the miracle of a baby- about the hope and possibility that each one brings. We have let other voices influence us- when our bodies are telling us the truth. We are women- we know the signs of a life within- how our body changes to protect it- to help it grow.
The choice to abort is often made under duress. That makes sense- because a choice of this magnitude burdens us- we feel pressure- and it is hard to escape because we carry it with us (literally).
Abortion may seem like the easy way out. Because once the baby is gone you can return to life as normal- but what if you have regrets later? We can’t go back. How do we know whether the life we live without that baby would truly be better than if we chose to give that child life? We don’t know the future. We can rationalize, but we can’t know.
Why do we not choose adoption? Why not have the baby and give it up? For some reason, in our society- we seem to deem it more “humanitarian” to end the life through abortion rather than to give our child to a family that can’t have children of their own. Or is it b/c as the baby grows, we become attached? Those mothering instincts kick in- are we afraid that we lack the courage to let our child go when the time comes?
My hope and prayer- if you are here reading this, know this truth first. You are loved by God. There is nothing you can do that can cause Him to stop loving you, or lessen His love. He treasures you as His child. He wants us all to have life, a full and abundant life. See John 10:10 below.
10 The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.
Jesus is talking here about how He is our shepherd. He wants to protect us from evil, those things that will come into our life to steal our joy and bring misery, regret, and pain.
See Psalm 139:13-16
13 For you created my inmost being;
you knit me together in my mother’s womb.
14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
your works are wonderful,
I know that full well.
15 My frame was not hidden from you
when I was made in the secret place,
when I was woven together in the depths of the earth.
16 Your eyes saw my unformed body;
all the days ordained for me were written in your book
before one of them came to be.
God treasures you, your entrance to this world was a cause for celebration. If you are considering abortion, please, take time to seek God, pray, to talk to someone you trust- don’t make a hasty decision.
If you have had an abortion, that does not change God’s love for you. Our choices have consequences- but God can redeem any life- He can heal you and help you to find peace.
I will be reading books related to abortion, and I will be posting reviews of these books with quotes and summaries that I hope will encourage further discussion about abortion.
I will also be posting testimonies of women who have had abortions.
I hope this will stir introspection in us all to reevaluate why we feel the way we do about this issue- whether we are pro-life or pro-choice- we would be wise to examine our motivations and seriously consider whose “truth” we are buying into.
Are we letting other unduly influence us?
Life is too important to let someone else tell us what we should do.
This is my heart’s mission.