I have found recently- however, that I am not satisfied after pouring my heart out- or ranting on a particular topic. Sometimes, in fact, I am left feeling more dissatisfied and restless than before I said anything about it.
There have been numerous times when I have “vented” to my husband only to have him remain silent through and after my soliloquy.
In recent weeks I have begun to wonder- does it annoy me b/c he doesn’t give me advice? What do I expect from him, from my friends?
I get frustrated sometimes when I am pouring my heart out to someone and they listen- I know they hear me and are with me- but they don’t say anything. Sometimes I think I want advice- I want someone to tell me what to do- even if I just end up spending the next 30 minutes afterward telling them why their advice was wrong.
But when they are silent- sometimes in those moments after I have just word vomited all over the place- I hear the still, small voice of God- a voice of conviction- showing me my selfishness, my pride, and humbling me.
Giving me insight into the problem/situation that I just shared and then causing me to wonder- as I did this morning- why didn’t I just bring this to the feet of Jesus?
That got me thinking- I don’t want to be the one who drowns out the still, small voice of God for someone else.
What if- in my desire to give advice and be helpful- I am actually- actively- keeping that person from turning to God- or hearing from God?
What makes us want to talk through problems instead of seeking God in prayer? Do we really think that we can “figure it out”?
I find myself unsettled with this conversation because it requires me to take a hard look at myself- at habits I have formed for dealing with things and situations. Am I willing to stop talking and start praying?
Am I willing to say- no- I am not going to discuss this issue with anyone but instead entrust it to God and pray that He will give me peace and wisdom in how to deal with it?
Instead of giving advice am I willing instead to start praying with people more? Friends, family, neighbors? Will I bring their concerns to God instead of trying to solve it myself?
I don’t know about you- but prayer always helps to set my heart right. When I am praying- talking to God about what is on my heart- there is something so calming and soothing about it. When I am praying with someone- praying for them- it is amazing the power that is in that moment.
1 I call to you, Lord, come quickly to me;
hear me when I call to you.
2 May my prayer be set before you like incense;
may the lifting up of my hands be like the evening sacrifice.
3 Set a guard over my mouth, Lord;
keep watch over the door of my lips.
4 Do not let my heart be drawn to what is evil
so that I take part in wicked deeds
along with those who are evildoers;
do not let me eat their delicacies.
We need to acknowledge God’s place in our lives. He is the one who can move mountains- change hearts, bring peace. His way is always better than any way that we could make up.
I feel so convicted about not trusting Him- when I try to tell people the way I think is best instead of saying- let’s seek God together.
18 And pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests. With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying for all the Lord’s people. 19 Pray also for me, that whenever I speak, words may be given me so that I will fearlessly make known the mystery of the gospel, 20 for which I am an ambassador in chains. Pray that I may declare it fearlessly, as I should.
So I pray that we would have the courage to stop ourselves when we are beginning to “word vomit” and that we will instead ask for prayer. (Acts 1:14)
And when someone comes to us seeking advice, I pray that we would instead steer them toward God through prayer- knowing that His answer to the problems that plague them far surpasses anything that we could come up with.
All praise and glory to our Lord and King- let us encourage others to lay their troubles at his feet.
23 “Truly I tell you, if anyone says to this mountain, ‘Go, throw yourself into the sea,’ and does not doubt in their heart but believes that what they say will happen, it will be done for them. 24 Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask for in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours. 25 And when you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive them, so that your Father in heaven may forgive you your sins.”