A Mom’s Inconvenient Truth

It wasn’t long ago, maybe a few months.  I called my Mom crying.  I was having one of those no good, very bad, highly unpleasant days- and was feeling so discouraged as a Mom. 

I had tried to do some things with my children and they didn’t work out well- I felt like I spent so much of the day correcting behaviors- I was impatient with my children, I got angry- I was short with them…

I was so disappointed in myself.  And then, to make matters worse, my husband came home and he had a rough day.  He could tell I was crabby and I felt his disappointment when I was short with the kids or impatient.

By the time I left for choir practice, I was near tears.  I called my Mom after choir practice, and balled by eyes out in the car- and had a long talk.

I haven’t forgotten what she told me, and I wanted to share it.

Mom’s don’t really get to have bad days.  When we do, it affects everyone.  We have the potential to create a house full of peace and harmony- or strife.

That’s not to say that we will not have bad days- but we have choices about how to respond to adversity, when circumstances are not working out the way we want. We are teaching our children on our bad days too.

It is a tremendous responsibility, but it is also an honor- to be a peacemaker in your own home- to serve in love and humility, to be poured out as an offering to our families.

Philippians 2:12-18
12 Therefore, my dear friends, as you have always obeyed—not only in my presence, but now much more in my absence—continue to work out your salvation with fear and trembling, 13 for it is God who works in you to will and to act in order to fulfill his good purpose.

14 Do everything without grumbling or arguing, 15 so that you may become blameless and pure, “children of God without fault in a warped and crooked generation.” Then you will shine among them like stars in the sky 16 as you hold firmly to the word of life. And then I will be able to boast on the day of Christ that I did not run or labor in vain. 17 But even if I am being poured out like a drink offering on the sacrifice and service coming from your faith, I am glad and rejoice with all of you. 18 So you too should be glad and rejoice with me.

294/365: rain pouring down

No, we can’t do it on our own.  It is not possible.  But with God- yes, I do believe we can do it.  We can serve with joy in our hearts, we can work hard preparing meals and keeping the house clean, even when we don’t feel we get the recognition we deserve.

We are working for the Lord, not for man.  And even if no one else notices how hard we work- God will see our faithful service. (Col. 3:23, Eph. 6:7)

Proverbs 31- Wife of Noble Character

vs.11   her husband has full confidence in her
vs.12   she brings him(her husband) good, not harm all the days of her life
vs.13   works with eager hands
vs.17   sets about her work vigorously, her arms are strong for her tasks
vs.20   opens her arms to the poor and extends her hand to the needy
vs.25   she is clothed with strength and dignity, she can laugh at the days to come
vs.26   she speaks with wisdom, faithful instruction is on her tongue
vs.27   watches over the affairs of household, is not idle
vs.28   her children arise and call her blessed, her husband also- he praises her

29 “Many women do noble things,
but you surpass them all.”
30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.
31 Honor her for all that her hands have done,
and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.

Fire

I am finding that being a Mom has plunged me into the refiner’s fire deeper than I have ever gone before- with more intense challenges and struggles.

I could just rationalize my failures, blame others, make excuses- but I want to fall on my knees- confront my sin- and reach out in faith to God, to persevere, to deny self.

Some days, I think- it is not fair-why do I always have to be the one to, I want, why can’t I, I don’t want to…

I am praying for strength to be a Godly Mom, and I need God- oh I need Him now more than ever!

Getting up early, spending time daily in His Word and praying- being thoughtful about how I spend my day- examining what I spend my time doing- seeking Godly wisdom and advice.

I want to be a woman who fears the Lord and lives to please Him first.  He is good- He is faithful.

I need to do my part- spend time with Him, seek Him, love Him, adore Him- be daily reminded that He is GOD- and I am not.

I want to hope and strive for things beyond my own strength- to give praise and honor and glory to God.

May my life honor Him- and point others toward Jesus.

 

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9 Responses to A Mom’s Inconvenient Truth

  1. Your mother is a wise woman. Not many women would be so bold as to give that advice to another woman. You’re blessed! I’m happy to have found your blog through your like on my Facebook page. :)

    • Rachel says:

      I am thankful to have found your blog, and through your blog so many other Moms who are home like me. It is such a blessing and inspiring to read things written by other Moms who are seeking God, esp. since I have so little support locally during this season. God bless you.

  2. Jaimie says:

    I’m not a mom yet…but oh, I needed to hear this. My attitude affects my husband–every single day. How I respond to difficult things reflects how I see God. And no, I can’t do it all myself…but through Him, we can do all things. :)

    Thank you SO very much for this!! I really needed to read it today. Blessings to you!!

    • Rachel says:

      So thankful that God uses our own struggles and revelations along this journey to encourage and uplift each other. This is a post I have needed to reread several times- and I totally agree- my attitude greatly affects my husband- it is amazing how when we are at peace inside- resting in the Lord’s love and grace- we can actually be facilitators of peace in the lives of everyone around us. God bless you. :)

  3. I’m so glad I stumbled upon your post! I love how honest you are. So often I read Christian mommy blogs, and all they offer are the things we should do, as if they are perfect and never have bad days. I love how you admit your struggles, and that sometimes it feels like it’s not fair.

    I struggle with this as well, because sometimes it does feel like a huge burden to be the one who sets the tone of peace (or not) in my home and for my entire family. But, like you say, God will provide the strength and humble spirit we need to do what He has called us to do.

    Blessings to you and your family!

    • Rachel says:

      So glad that you stumbled over here too! I have to remind myself daily- boast only in the Lord- rely on His strength and not my own. And yes, even this weekend, I was upset about something (can’t even remember what it was) and I could see the troubled look on my husband and kid’s faces- so convicting! I continue to pray, knowing that God will change my heart as I willingly submit to Him and obey the conviction of the Holy Spirit. God bless you, thank you for sharing.

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