She will ask questions (why?), move at a snails pace, anything to prevent the quick movement from point A to point B or through whatever task or meal we may be sitting down to complete.
I find myself getting very frustrated sometimes. Why? That’s what I have been thinking about- and truthfully- all the reasons that I come up with mostly boil down to my own selfishness. I want her to move faster so that I can move on to the next thing or focus on the next thing.
When I have a list in my head of things to do, I like to move through those things and get them accomplished.
Sometimes my son is crying and she is dawdling and I just want her to hurry so I can get back to him.
Maybe you are trying to take just a few moments to sit down and read for a few minutes, or eat something, or do a few exercises…go to the bathroom…
In the heat of the moment, how do you respond? I believe those moments are glimpses of our true character- our discipline and self-surrender to Christ. That’s why I posit it is my own selfishness that fuels so many of my reactions- those parts of myself that remain not given up or delivered in Christ.
Whatever the reason- these are times when I feel my character is being tested. How will I choose to respond? Will I yell and get impatient? Will I calmly ask her to move a little faster and explain to her the reason for hurrying? Will I let her dawdle- and dawdle with her?
Life is full of so many small- seemingly insignificant moments- but out of those things if we are watching- we can see patterns emerge. Ways that we choose to deal with situations that frustrated us or raise our stress level.
God has been challenging me with the realization that everything I do- even these seemingly insignificant things- are teaching my children about my character- and their mother responding with the love of Christ- and in a way that teaches them about who God is and who He calls us to be as Christians.
Rather than letting these moments slip by unchecked- I have been praying that God will change my heart and continue to chip away at the selfish parts of me- bringing me more fully in surrender to Him.
1 Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God—this is your true and proper worship. 2 Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.
4 Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice! 5 Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near. 6 Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. 7And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
8 Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. 9 Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me—put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you.
Colossians 3:20-21 (Great passage on a Christian household)
20Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord.
21 Fathers, do not embitter your children, or they will become discouraged.
Embitter: Cause (someone) to feel bitter or resentful.
Bitter: characterized by intense antagonism or hostility, hard to bear, grievous, distressful
Synonyms for Bitter: heartbreaking, disagreeable, antagonistic, distasteful, acrimonious, disturbing, unpleasant
***I think that though this passage says Fathers- that Mothers can endeavor to also avoid things that would embitter our children.
Are there any situations that continually frustrate you or leave you feeling unsatisfied- wishing for a different outcome? Are you hungry to live a more faithful example of Christ’s sacrificial love and patience?
I encourage you to pray- and seek accountability- to find Scriptures that can encourage you and memorize them- write them on your mirror- start today.
Don’t let another day go by- for we all know- time slips away quickly and before we know it- the time to change is lost- our children are grown- relationships are damaged or destroyed- because we failed to see the importance of those seemingly little things.
21 So I find this law at work: Although I want to do good, evil is right there with me. 22 For in my inner being I delight in God’s law; 23 but I see another law at work in me, waging war against the law of my mind and making me a prisoner of the law of sin at work within me. 24 What a wretched man I am! Who will rescue me from this body that is subject to death? 25 Thanks be to God, who delivers me through Jesus Christ our Lord!